Wednesday, November 22, 2006

Is it ok being single?

OK!!!! Wow!!! Welll I'm so sorry it has taken me close to forever to write on here! hehe! I have had one of the busiest months ever! But I'm going to have alot of down time in the next couple weeks so hopefully I'll get to post more! :)

The biggest thing that has been coming up in conversations and that I have been thinking about is the topic of being single! Who would have thought?? lol!
Let me just start off with saying that I have ALWAYS been single so this is coming from that perspective. we all admit it being loved, cared for, needed, and adored is soooo amazing! That is what we get fulfilled in dating! That is why people normally would much rather be with someone than be without! And that is very valid because God put that desire in us! And it will be fulfilled someday through the person you will marry!

The thing that I have been thinking about lately is that it seems that the world puts so much pressure on us to not be single to always have SOMEONE that we never actually have a chance to become who we are separate from another person! I have seen it happen all to often where people jump from one person to the next without taking a break and becoming who they are in Christ! Becoming who we are in Christ and having THAT relationship be #1 in our lives is soooo important! If that relationship isn't strengthened than all our other relationships will fail! I am really enjoying being single right now cause I can completely focus on what I need to focus on ESPECIALLY my relationship with God! It's amazing how freeing it is! :) My friend Sarah and I were just talking about this last night and she shared with me this AMAZING poem that she found and I think it completely sums up what I have been talking about and my heart! Enjoy!

Saved & Single
What makes you think that just because I am an attractive woman of God that I'm incomplete without a mate? Who told you that without a man somethings missing from my life? And if so, what would that be?
Love? I love myself and more importantly I love the Lord. He told me that when I delight in Him, He will give me the desires of my heart.

Security? I have everything I need according to His riches in glory.
Intimacy? Now, how's a man going to get to know me when he doesn't even know who he is in the Lord.
See my Father told me I'm above a ruby's worth and a gem does not seek, it is sought. I'm single and that's all right with me. See, it's not that I oppose relationships it's that I detest co-dependency. As a woman I know it is not my role to chase after any man. Esther 2:14 reads that I am to wait on my king and when he's delighted in me he will call me by my name.
My Lord does not intend for me to be needy or desperate. I am to be cherished, Relished, Valued, and Honored. It's not my job to convince him or convict him of that. My mate will already know it and consistently show it and he will stay on his knees daily - not just to adore me but to praise the Lord for the virtuous woman he has found.
So, when you see me by myself - I'm not alone. I know what I have coming to me. I'm single and saved, and right now that's all I need to be!- Author Unknown