Friday, February 26, 2010

Investing your kisses.

I'm sitting here this morning looking out the window and just thinking... thinking about life and love and everything else that comes across my mind...
Of course being a girl, though, it always seems to wander to the more romantic side of life... dating, kissing for the first time, getting married... ya know the normal stuff;)
Sitting here contemplating all this I was thinking, "why?" Why am I keeping myself for my husband? Why am I not dating every guy that comes across my path? Why am I not making out with random guys...? Why?
It's not like it says not to in the bible... it's just not super clear about all of that unfortunately!
Yes, it says to live in purity... but what is defined as purity? Especially in our day and age compared to theirs?
So thinking about why... I realized that it all goes back to vision. For me in my life I know that if I have a purpose and vision guiding me I'm going to say no to opportunities that come my way that don't line up with that or are distracting... it keeps me on course and it's the most direct path to what I am called to do! I have a view on the future and that is going to give me permission to say no, now. Even though it may be hard I know that the future outcome is worth it.
I feel it's the same in relationships and the physical sides of them, also. If my goal is a strong healthy marriage without a ton of baggage or hurts from the past what can I say no to now to get to that place? (Not saying that you can't have a great marriage and have a lot of baggage from the past cause there is always grace and redemption... but if I can make the choice now to not have to go through all of that... now's the time to choose!)

Dating just for the heck of dating... I would LOVE to go out and date someone right now... it'd be so fun.. I get some nice attention and I get that "guy" spot in me filled for awhile! It be a blast! But in the long run what's it for? To satisfy my needs right now. Bad investment of time and energy-emotionally and physically. It's like a mini divorce in the end.
Kissing just for the heck of kissing... Gosh that would be nice if some guy that I kinda liked just came wrapped his arms around me picked me up and kissed me... it'd be so amazing. For that minute. Annnddd a couple minutes after of course....
But what about thinking about that same kiss when I'm going to kiss my future husband for the first time and starting to compare the two... and all that mess? Not a good investment for my original goal.
Same for everything else in between... as far as sleeping with someone... not a good investment for the end goal. Obviously.
All these things develop emotional and physical ties to these people as well as terrible heartbreak that can mostly be avoided if we have our eyes on the future...

What is an investment? Something that you put away right that it can be even bigger and greater in the future.
All these things that I am saving are investments that I am putting into a "long term investment fund" for my marriage. Yeah it's hard! It's crazy hard sometimes.
But in the end if you really look at it obviously most of the world has not been thinking about their investments much if most of the marriages are ending these days...
So I'm ready to change that statistic. And hold these things so precious... not being the lazy servant but the wise one. Having an eye for the future and not just the NOW pleasures.

Matt 25:14-28
It will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his property to them. To one he gave five talents of money, to another two talents, and to another one talent, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. The man who had received the five talents went at once and put his money to work and gained five more. So also, the one with the two talents gained two more. But the man who had received the one talent went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master's money.
"After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. The man who had received the five talents brought the other five. 'Master,' he said, 'you entrusted me with five talents. See, I have gained five more.'
"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'
"The man with the two talents also came. 'Master,' he said, 'you entrusted me with two talents; see, I have gained two more.'
"His master replied, 'Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master's happiness!'
"Then the man who had received the one talent came. 'Master,' he said, 'I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. So I was afraid and went out and hid your talent in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.'
"His master replied, 'You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.
'Take the talent from him and give it to the one who has the ten talents. For everyone who has will be given more, and he will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what he has will be taken from him. And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.'


Anonymous said...

Sarah, this is excellent. Your honesty and willingness to be open is utterly refreshing. I want the same things; I have to remind myself that my waiting IS an investment. One that will not only benefit me in the future, but that will challenge and benefit me now, as I learn to trust the Lord and trust in HIS timing, HIS plan for my life.

Thank you for this post, dear. And thank you for your example.

Jessica Almeida said...

Wow Sarah, you pretty much put into words what I've been thinking about. Sometimes it's easy to just want to be "normal" and date for the heck of it. But God calls us to live above the "norm." And I believe by looking into the future instead of the now, is what separates us from what the world defines as normal.

You truly are a great example!

Katie McNeil said...

Wow, that was good. I have been telling myself a lot lately that I will be so much better off in the future without the sting left by dating and physical relationships. Back in the summer, I debated with myself a lot on choosing the investment or the 'splurge' and after fighting with God a lot, I came to accept and embrace my calling, our calling, to save our whole selves for our future husbands. Not just saving sex, but saving our hearts, saving our kisses.

Thanks for the encouragement, and well done!

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